Have you ever had a co-worker who can’t seem to stop complaining? It can be frustrating, especially if the complaining gets in the way of your work.
In this blog, we’ll discuss how to deal with co-workers who complain a lot and provide tips on getting them to stop.
We’ll also discuss 3 types of complainers, how to identify a pattern in their complaints, and how to set boundaries with them.
Last, we’ll discuss how to involve the boss if you want to get serious about dealing with the complainer.
So whether you’re seeking guidance on dealing with a complainer or want to hear about other people’s experiences, read on!
3 Types of Complainers
Complaining is a natural human behavior that can positively and negatively affect our lives.
Some people complain to highlight a problem and motivate others to take action. In contrast, others complain for the sake of complaining about little or no intention of taking action to resolve the issue.
According to recent research, the problem-focused complainer is the most constructive type, as they identify a specific issue and take action to resolve it.
Complaining is typical, but some people take it to the extreme. These people are known as “emotion-focused complainers.”
They complain not just to get relief from their negative feelings but also to get attention and support from others. Emotion-focused complainers often have low self-esteem and feel powerless in their lives. They can be frustrating, but they may also be more likely to change their behavior if given feedback and support.
This type of complainer often causes tension and conflict in relationships.
Do you know someone who complains about everything but doesn’t do anything to change their situation? Do they always have a reason why they can’t do something and never take any personal responsibility for their actions? If so, you’re probably dealing with an indifferent complainer.
Indifferent complainers complain about everything but don’t care about the issue.
For example, an indifferent complainer might complain that their job is too demanding, but they won’t quit because they need the money. Or, they might gripe about how there aren’t enough good men out there, but they won’t put themselves out there to meet new people.
Indifferent complainers can be frustrating because their complaints seem like a way to make themselves feel better.
Start By Listening To What They Have To Say
If the person has something constructive to add, be open to hearing it. If not, remember that not everyone will feel the same way about things and that there is no need to take everything they say personally.
Try To Understand Why The Co-Worker Is Complaining
There could be a lot of reasons why a co-worker is complaining. Maybe they’re experiencing personal challenges and want to share them with their co-workers.
Maybe their concerns are not being taken seriously or heard attentively by their team members.
Whatever the reason, it’s essential to understand and empathize with the co-worker. Hopefully, this will help them feel understood and less frustrated.
Connect & Communicate
Connect and communicate with your co-workers to find a way to work together harmoniously.
Tips For Dealing With Co-workers Who Complain A Lot
It can be difficult when someone in the workplace complains constantly, but it is essential to remember that everyone has different preferences and ways of dealing with stress. Try not to take things personally and instead focus on resolving the issue.
You can do a few things to deal with co-workers who constantly complain.
First, try to understand why they feel the need to complain. Sometimes, it can be challenging to cope with negative feelings, so complaining is a way of alleviating those emotions.
Second, be understanding and supportive when they do share their frustrations.
Finally, take time for yourself to avoid being drawn into their complaints.
Understand Where The Complainer May Be Coming From
Complaining can sometimes feel like a pointless and uphill battle, but it’s important to remember that everyone is human.
When addressing complaints, being gentle, understanding, and patient is essential. This will help defuse the situation quickly and prevent any conflict from escalating.
It is also essential to try and understand the complainer’s perspective before responding.
Sometimes people complain for reasons that are not warranted- for example; they might want someone to listen without judging them or providing solutions immediately.
In these cases, it’s okay to let the complainer talk until they have calmed down a bit; then, you can offer your feedback open-mindedly.
Look For A Pattern
Regarding co-workers who complain a lot, looking for a pattern is essential. Are they always negative? Do they constantly find fault with everything? If so, you may need to take some action. However, before doing anything, it’s essential to understand the reason behind their complaints.
In many cases, people who complain a lot deal with many stress or problems. Maybe they’re going through a tough time at home or work. In these cases, the best thing you can do is be supportive and understanding.
If you can’t seem to get through to your co-worker or if their complaining negatively impacts your work, you may need to take more drastic measures.
Consider Calling Out The Behavior If You Have A Close Relationship
When it comes to confronting someone who is behaving out, it’s often tricky. It is tough when you care about that person and want them to change for the better, but their behavior continues unabated.
If confrontation is something that you feel ready and able to do, be patient. It will take time, but eventually, it will work – hopefully giving you the peace of mind that your loved one is recovering.
To avoid making things unnecessarily complicated or hurtful, name-calling or insults are usually ineffective in getting people’s attention or motivation toward change (or anything else).
Calling out their behavior clearly and concisely can help get them started on the path back toward healthy living.
Give The Complainer Context
Often, a complainer wants someone else to take care of their problem. When you understand this fact, addressing the complaint calmly and respectfully becomes easier.
First, try to understand the root of the complaint. What exactly are they looking for? Are they after sympathy or validation? Once you know that, it’s easier to offer solutions that fit those needs – not your plan or opinions!
Complainers need to be given context to understand their complaints. This means providing information about the situation- whether that is what happened specifically, how long it’s been going on, etc.
By giving complainers the information they need- along with empathy and patience- you will help them resolve their issues as quickly and painlessly as possible.
Find Easy and Manageable Solutions
Sometimes people complain because they feel wronged or need to vent. Once you understand their feelings, try to find a solution that works for both parties. If the complainer is unwilling to solve the problem, you may need to speak with their supervisor.
If you find yourself constantly fielding complaints from a co-worker, it may be time to set some boundaries.
Let the co-worker know you’re happy to help when you can but need to focus on your work. If the complaints become too frequent or disruptive, politely explain that you must end the conversation.
If the behavior continues, talk to your supervisor about how best to handle the situation. Ultimately, it’s important to remember that you can only control your behavior – not that of others.
It’s tough when you have to work with someone who constantly complains. They can bring down your mood and make the day drag on.
If this person is a co-worker, here are a few tips for dealing with them:
- Try to ignore them as much as possible. This may not be easy if they are constantly on your face, but if you manage not to engage them, it will make things easier for you.
- Ask them to stop if they bother or distract you from your work. Being assertive and letting them know their behavior is unacceptable is essential.
- If they continue to complain after you’ve asked them to stop, or if their complaints harm your work, then it may be best to withdraw attention entirely.
Knowing how to approach the situation can be challenging when a co-worker complains a lot. On the one hand, you may want to try to help them solve the problem, but on the other, you may find their complaining disruptive and draining.
If your co-worker’s complaints are impacting your productivity or causing tension in the workplace, it may be necessary to take a step back and approach the situation delicately.
Here are a few tips for dealing with co-workers who complain a lot:
- Try to understand what they’re complaining about. Often, there is a kernel of truth in even the most exaggerated complaint. By taking the time to understand what your co-worker is upset about, you may be able to provide helpful feedback or suggest potential solutions.
- Acknowledge their feelings.
Involve The Boss
The best way to deal with the situation is to involve your boss. This will help to ensure that the complaining doesn’t disrupt the workplace or affect your relationship with your boss.
In some cases, the complainer may need guidance or support.
You can assess the situation and determine the best way to proceed by involving your boss.
Complaining can be draining, especially when it comes to work-related issues. However, with some understanding and patience, you can manage the complainer in your workplace and improve the work-life balance for all involved.
This blog has outlined different strategies for dealing with different types of complainers.
So, whether you are the complainer or the one being complained about, read on and prepare to put your complaining skills to good use!
FAQs | Chronic Complaining Co-Worker
How do you politely avoid a co-worker?
There are a few ways to avoid a co-worker who complains politely. One option is to try and schedule time with them away from work so that the complaining can be avoided. Another option is to respectfully but firmly put an end to their complaints. It may be best to speak with their manager about the issue if necessary.
Why do co-workers like to start unnecessary drama?
Some people enjoy stirring up trouble and complaining. It’s a way for them to feel important, like they’re doing something proactive. But it can also be frustrating for everyone else around them.
If you’re dealing with a co-worker who tends to complain, the best thing to do is try to ignore them. You can always tell them if they make too much noise or disrupt the work environment.
How do I deal with a co-worker who constantly complains to me?
It can be tough to deal with someone who constantly complains.
The best thing to do is try and refrain from engaging in complaining behavior yourself. Ignore the complainer, and if they continue to complain, discussing why their attitude is causing problems at work may be helpful.
If that doesn’t work, it may be helpful to approach the complainer privately and offer a suggestion to help them ease their discomfort.
If attempted conversations or solutions do not work, it may be helpful to document the complainer’s complaints and track when and how they occur to understand the problem better.
How to deal with a very negative co-worker?
The first step is assessing your personality and seeing if you are more likely to react positively or negatively to complaints. If you are more likely to respond positively, try understanding and forgiving when someone complains. However, if you tend to react negatively, it may be best to distance yourself from the negative person.
How can I manage negative behavior from my co-workers?
There are a few things that you can do to deal with co-workers who complain a lot. One thing that you can do is try to keep a positive attitude toward your co-workers. This will help them feel appreciated and hopefully encourage them to stop complaining. Another thing you can do is try to eliminate the sources of complaints from your work area. If things are causing your co-workers to complain, try to eliminate or change those things. You could try to organize the work area, give feedback, or set up systems to help people get problems resolved quickly.
How do you tell an employee to stop complaining?
The first step is to try to understand why the employee is complaining. Maybe something is going on at work that is causing them stress. Once you’ve identified the source of the problem, you can work with the employee to find a solution. If complaining is a habit, you may need to set some boundaries. Explain that you appreciate their feedback, but ask them to refrain from complaining in the office.